Korean dating culture relationship

So in my experience, they put you on a pedestal and subtlety judge you.

Getting permission almost never worked because they’d be calling constantly and checking up on her. Okay, I may be exaggerating a tiny bit, but Korean couples tend to be extremely bonded and with such bond comes such craziness. I think breakups rarely end in good terms among Korean couples.

Some are really extreme: for instance, once four of my girl friends were out, and my girlfriend’s bf asked her to take a photo of her outfit to make sure it’s not too scandalous. I see tons of Canadian friends being friends with their ex but I rarely see Korean couples continuing to be friends after a break-up.

But that doesn’t mean its all roses and butterflies; there are also things that are particularly stressful when dating Korean guys. Not all, but surely many Korean boyfriends will ask to check your phone, kakaotalk or what-nots.

They expect to know your entire schedule in and out and also expects you to update him on your life constantly.

In comparison to guys I’ve dated from other culture, Korean guys are great at keeping in touch, constantly.

This made it hard for me to adapt to ABC guys that were texting 2,3 messages per day or every two three days because Korean guys will text you every day. It’s not that they’re more/less into you; I think it’s a norm.

But I must say that there is some merit to Korean boys’ courting style that is hard to match.

So here, I list out some of the common occurrences of dating a Korean guy based on my personal experience and of the experiences of my lovely Korean girlfriends.

Regardless, it’s good to see guys putting as much effort into looking nice and “dolling” up, but they would expect you to do the same. For instance, while it’s extremely subtle, they may exert more authority or expect you to show more “child-like” behaviors. In Korea, age determines how you refer to one another (unlike in Canada where everyone calls each other names).

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