Dating without kundera

The insistence that an unwanted kiss is about power, not courtship, simply isn’t a serious theory of the case—not when the punishment for this crime is so grave.

Men, too, are entitled to the benefit of the doubt, and even to a presumption of innocence.

It does not matter that, at the time, I may have felt that we were flirting.

Now that I think about it, I regret my response when the Texas Republican Congressman Joe Barton was humiliated by a former lover who released video of the elderly man masturbating.

I still believe, as I said then, that Joe Barton had no business sending sex videos of himself to anybody.

And it infuriated me that he had that kind of power over me within the culture of our company.

A friendship ended that day, as did a normal working relationship.

They are all confessing in the same dazed, rote, mechanical way.

It’s always the same statement: “I have come to realize that it does not matter that, at the time, I may have perceived my words as playful.

The difficulty of ascertaining whether one’s passions are reciprocated is the theme of 90 percent of human literature and every romantic comedy or pop song ever written.

Romance involves the most complex of human emotions, desire the most powerful of human drives. Every honest man will tell you that at times he has misread these signals, and so will every honest woman.

They will make no bawdy jokes when we are listening. It brings to mind the time I was accused of racism in the workplace on completely spurious grounds.

They will adopt in our presence great deference to our exquisite sensitivity and frailty. This accusation would have been laughed out of any remotely fair-minded tribunal.

Many women seem positively joyful at this prospect. But my accuser was a racial minority, and I understood quite clearly the power he had over me: he could have easily compelled our employer to fire me, and used language indicating that he was willing to press it.

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