Dating in the muslim religion

The unrealistic expectation that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.

Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.

The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said:”The widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented to that and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is sought.”The Prophet did nullify the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

MARRIAGEIslam teaches us that marriage is the finest, purest and permissible relationship that should exist between a male and female; it should be the goal that they both have in mind.

Marriage is so serious and so important that it is clearly defined in the Quran and in the teachings of Islam by the prophet, peace be upon him.

Though love is something nice, and it is recommended for a man to marry a woman whom he loves, because the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “There is nothing better for two who love each other than marriage.” (Sahih Al-Jami`, 5200)However, this love should not be overwhelming and cause a person to forget other characteristics which he should look for in the person he wants to marry.

The most important characteristic is religious commitment.There is no room in Islam for illicit affairs or the Western vogue-word of boyfriend and girlfriend.All those stories of media and movies are not helpful to make a person comply with the teachings of Islam.After being “involved” with a person for a time, and then breakiing up and going through the feelings of remorse or loneliness and unhappiness, and then moving on to the next “relationship” and then another break-up, hard feelings, sadness and then yet another series of dating, hanging out, breaking up and so on.Definitely a married couple who have both been in “relationships” prior to marriage, falling in love, arguing, breaking up and then going through the sad feelings and repeating this over and over, are much more likely to end up in a very rough marriage and very possible divorce.Question #1The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says: “Three qualities, if found in a person, will help him have perfect faith: Having Allah and His Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, as the most beloved ones, loving a person only for the sake of Allah and hating getting back to Kufr (disbelief) the way one hates to be thrown into fire.” That means love is a fruit of piety. There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the West.

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