Dating for women in their 40s

She believes her sexuality is the only way she can attract a man, or she wants this point in her life to be a series of sexual experiences. She posts a provocative picture on her online dating profile, invites him over to her house on the first date, shows too much skin (especially for a woman over 40), and is overly familiar with her affection.The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness.She’s looking for her guy to be interesting, keep her laughing, ask her all about herself, and give her butterflies…all on the first date. That man then makes a poor impression (understandably), and the date is chalked up to another “he just wasn’t right for me” experience.

By default she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.) The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18 year old.

Try as he might, the 60-year-old fabulous guy can’t measure up to her expectations because she’s looking for a man who doesn’t exist.

She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s the The Man and she’s his prize!

The 18 Year Old The 18 year old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.

So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.

Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante.She picks fights, picks the wrong guys, or maneuvers relationships to end because it gives her control. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings. People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love after 40, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success.

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